{"id":7271,"date":"2013-05-23T07:01:30","date_gmt":"2013-05-22T19:01:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/spence-chapin.org\/blog-modern-family-center-how-do-i-talk-to-my-child-about-adoption\/"},"modified":"2020-01-08T04:56:27","modified_gmt":"2020-01-07T16:56:27","slug":"como-hablo-con-mi-hijo-sobre-la-adopcion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spencestaging.berrycreativellc.com\/es\/how-do-i-talk-to-my-child-about-adoption\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfC\u00f3mo hablo con mi hijo sobre la adopci\u00f3n?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Cuando adoptas a un ni\u00f1o, le est\u00e1s dando el maravilloso regalo de un hogar.  Sin embargo, con todo el amor que tienes para ofrecer tambi\u00e9n viene la responsabilidad de estar dispuesto a hablar sobre sus padres biol\u00f3gicos en alg\u00fan momento de su vida. Para muchos padres, esto puede ser una tarea desafiante; puede ser a\u00fan m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil para el ni\u00f1o.<\/p>\n<p>La mayor\u00eda de los padres adoptivos entienden que su hijo no s\u00f3lo necesita y merece conocimiento de c\u00f3mo <a href=\"https:\/\/spencestaging.berrycreativellc.com\/es\/unplanned-pregnancy\/a2_about_open_adoption.php\/\">su familia fue creada a trav\u00e9s de la adopci\u00f3n<\/a>, pero tambi\u00e9n que este conocimiento debe proporcionarse de una manera que le d\u00e9 al ni\u00f1o el orgullo y el respeto por s\u00ed mismo que toda persona necesita como base en la vida.<\/p>\n<p>Hace a\u00f1os, los padres pensaban que deb\u00edan esperar hasta que el ni\u00f1o tuviera edad suficiente para hablar de la adopci\u00f3n. Ahora sabemos que esta forma puede hacer m\u00e1s da\u00f1o que bien, ya que muchos ni\u00f1os adoptados se enteran de su adopci\u00f3n a trav\u00e9s de otras personas y se sienten traicionados.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/spencestaging.berrycreativellc.com\/es\/servicios-post-adopcion\/c3_workshops_for_kids_adults.php\/\">Los ni\u00f1os adoptados suelen tener muchas preguntas<\/a> sobre su herencia y deben ser respondidas por sus padres adoptivos cuando se les pregunte. He trabajado con ni\u00f1os y familias de acogida y adopci\u00f3n durante m\u00e1s de 15 a\u00f1os, y <a href=\"https:\/\/spencestaging.berrycreativellc.com\/es\/servicios-post-adopcion\/c1_counseling.php\/\">cada ni\u00f1o al que he aconsejado<\/a> ha tenido preguntas sobre su familia biol\u00f3gica desde una edad temprana. Algunos ni\u00f1os m\u00e1s peque\u00f1os a menudo no est\u00e1n seguros de si deben criar a sus padres biol\u00f3gicos con sus padres adoptivos, por temor a herir sus sentimientos o causar enojo y ser abandonados una vez m\u00e1s. En algunos casos sus miedos son reales, mientras que en otros no lo son.<\/p>\n<p>Antes de la adolescencia, los ni\u00f1os sienten mucha curiosidad por conocer sus historias de adopci\u00f3n. Aunque cuestionan las circunstancias que llevaron a su adopci\u00f3n, la mayor\u00eda parece aceptar las respuestas con calma \u2013 Ver m\u00e1s en:<br \/>\nAlgunas de las preguntas que hacen los ni\u00f1os adoptados son: \u201c\u00bfMe amaban mi mam\u00e1 y mi pap\u00e1? \u00bfMi mam\u00e1 y mi pap\u00e1 se amaban? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 me dieron en adopci\u00f3n? Todas estas son preguntas v\u00e1lidas que deben responderse para garantizar que el ni\u00f1o se sienta seguro.<\/p>\n<p>Los padres adoptivos me han dicho: \u201cS\u00e9 que tengo que hablar con mi hija o hijo sobre la adopci\u00f3n, pero \u00bfpor d\u00f3nde empiezo?\u201d Creo que es mejor comenzar cuando el ni\u00f1o es muy peque\u00f1o y es capaz de comprender cognitivamente el lenguaje, generalmente entre el a\u00f1o y medio y los dos a\u00f1os de edad. Desea poder contarle a su hijo sobre la adopci\u00f3n con frecuencia. Adem\u00e1s, si est\u00e1 casado o tiene una relaci\u00f3n, debe asegurarse de que ambos padres est\u00e9n de acuerdo con la misma historia. Esto har\u00e1 que la experiencia sea menos complicada y estresante para su hijo. Siempre animo a los padres a practicar lo que le van a decir al ni\u00f1o antes de hablar. Fomenta la confianza de los padres y los prepara para las preguntas. Y prep\u00e1rate: \u00a1tendr\u00e1n muchas preguntas!<\/p>\n<p>Aqu\u00ed hay algunos consejos m\u00e1s para hablar con un ni\u00f1o sobre su adopci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Est\u00e9 siempre dispuesto a hablar sobre la adopci\u00f3n con sus hijos. Cuanto m\u00e1s abierto sea usted al respecto, m\u00e1s c\u00f3modo se sentir\u00e1 el ni\u00f1o.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Mantenga la conversaci\u00f3n apropiada para la edad. Cuando un ni\u00f1o sea m\u00e1s peque\u00f1o, utilice una t\u00e9cnica de narraci\u00f3n de cuentos (Fisher, 2000) y mantenga un lenguaje sencillo. A medida que el ni\u00f1o crece y se vuelve m\u00e1s maduro, se puede utilizar un lenguaje m\u00e1s sofisticado.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Sea honesto pero no asuste al ni\u00f1o. Si no sabes algo, entonces di: &quot;No lo s\u00e9&quot;. Si el ni\u00f1o fue producto de una violaci\u00f3n, por ejemplo, &quot;no querr\u00e1s empezar diciendo que tu mam\u00e1 y tu pap\u00e1 se amaban mucho&quot;, dice Lois Melina, autora de Making Sense of Adoption and Raising Adopted Children. &quot;Se puede decir algo que implicar\u00eda que sus padres no se conoc\u00edan muy bien&quot;.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>4. Ayude a su hijo a aprender c\u00f3mo expresar sus emociones acerca de ser adoptado. Esto se puede hacer no s\u00f3lo hablando sino tambi\u00e9n dibujando o haciendo un libro de vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Abordar el pasado del ni\u00f1o adoptado es la clave para ayudarlo a avanzar hacia un futuro brillante.<\/p>\n<p><em>\u2013 Por la Dra. Sue, psic\u00f3loga cl\u00ednica y profesora de psicolog\u00eda en la Universidad de Temple y experta en crianza de los hijos, cuidados de crianza y abuso infantil. 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