{"id":7192,"date":"2012-12-08T06:37:49","date_gmt":"2012-12-07T18:37:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/spence-chapin.org\/blog-international_adoption-korea-the-adjustment-process-one-familys-story-from-korea-part-i\/"},"modified":"2020-01-08T07:59:29","modified_gmt":"2020-01-07T19:59:29","slug":"el-proceso-de-adaptacion-la-historia-de-una-familia-de-corea-parte-i","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spencestaging.berrycreativellc.com\/es\/the-adjustment-process-one-familys-story-from-korea-part-i\/","title":{"rendered":"El proceso de adaptaci\u00f3n: la historia de una familia de Corea \u2013 Parte I"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Tenemos la suerte de contar con contribuciones de una madre adoptiva en las que escribe sobre las experiencias personales de su familia al regresar de su viaje a Corea. Su pieza refleja las dificultades para formar el v\u00ednculo entre padres adoptivos e hijos, y la necesidad de que los padres sean pacientes y emp\u00e1ticos mientras absorben el miedo y la incertidumbre que siente su hijo.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>En junio de 2012 hicimos nuestro viaje alrededor del mundo para encontrarnos con nuestro hijo en Corea. Ten\u00eda 16 meses y hab\u00eda pasado poco m\u00e1s de un a\u00f1o con su madre adoptiva. Ella ten\u00eda m\u00e1s de sesenta a\u00f1os y ten\u00eda hijos mayores, por lo que, por lo que sabemos, eran solo ellos dos la mayor parte del tiempo. Cuando llegamos a su casa para nuestra primera reuni\u00f3n, nos recibi\u00f3 en la camioneta con nuestro hijo a cuestas en un portabeb\u00e9s. Aunque ten\u00eda una gran sonrisa en su rostro y continu\u00f3 mir\u00e1ndonos y sonriendo mientras camin\u00e1bamos hacia su casa, \u00a1s\u00e9 que no ten\u00eda idea de c\u00f3mo su mundo estaba a punto de cambiar!<\/p>\n<p>Nuestro trabajador social nos advirti\u00f3 que cuanto m\u00e1s cerca estuviera de su madre adoptiva, mejor ser\u00eda para nosotros a largo plazo en cuanto al apego, pero m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil ser\u00eda nuestro primer mes en casa. Mientras est\u00e1bamos sentados en la casa de la madre adoptiva y observ\u00e1bamos su interacci\u00f3n, esas palabras rondaron por mi mente. Se sent\u00f3 completamente contento en su regazo y dudaba en establecer alguna conexi\u00f3n con nosotros, aunque tener a nuestro hijo de 8 a\u00f1os ayud\u00f3 a romper un poco el hielo. Finalmente se acerc\u00f3 y se sent\u00f3 en el regazo de nuestro hijo y mi esposo por un segundo, pero regres\u00f3 con su madre adoptiva igual de r\u00e1pido. Cuando ella fue a la cocina a preparar un refrigerio, \u00e9l gimi\u00f3 y la sigui\u00f3. Cuando finalmente logr\u00e9 que se sentara en mi regazo, llor\u00f3 un poco mientras intentaba agarrar algo de la mesa, y su madre adoptiva r\u00e1pidamente lo levant\u00f3. Esto nos demostr\u00f3 que su v\u00ednculo era muy fuerte y que \u00edbamos a tener trabajo por delante.<\/p>\n<p>En nuestro \u201cD\u00eda de la Familia\u201d, cuando regresamos a nuestra habitaci\u00f3n en SWS, parec\u00eda que el duelo comenz\u00f3 de inmediato. Estaba muy let\u00e1rgico, aunque en parte se deb\u00eda a un resfriado, pero s\u00f3lo mi marido lo consolaba. Si siquiera lo mirara, llorar\u00eda. Esto me rompi\u00f3 el coraz\u00f3n, pero por dentro sab\u00eda que \u00e9l no estaba tratando de reemplazar a su mam\u00e1; No necesitaba otra mujer en su vida. Para consolarse, frotaba la cara de mi marido, normalmente hasta quedarse dormido. Esto dur\u00f3 al menos un mes para los dos. Pensamos que se estaba uniendo a mi esposo hasta que est\u00e1bamos en el aeropuerto de camino a casa y trat\u00f3 de acercarse a cualquier otro hombre cauc\u00e1sico, incluso cuando hab\u00eda otros hombres coreanos alrededor.<\/p>\n<p>Una vez que llegamos a casa, pasamos las primeras semanas despert\u00e1ndonos en medio de la noche y \u00e9l lloraba desconsoladamente por su madre adoptiva durante aproximadamente 3 horas cada noche. \u00c9l gritaba su nombre y golpeaba su cuerpo y no importaba lo que intent\u00e1ramos hacer, nada lo consolaba. En este punto, todo lo que pod\u00edamos hacer por \u00e9l era estar all\u00ed y asegurarnos de que estuviera a salvo, asegur\u00e1ndole que no ir\u00edamos a ninguna parte.<\/p>\n<p>Laurie Toth<br \/>\nCleveland, Ohio, EE.UU.<br \/>\ntothadoptionjourney.blogspot.com<\/p>\n<p><em>La parte 2 se publicar\u00e1 a principios de la pr\u00f3xima semana. Analiza el per\u00edodo posterior a la colocaci\u00f3n y las formas en que trabaj\u00f3 para construir un v\u00ednculo entre ella y su hijo.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We are fortunate to have contributions from an adoptive parent in which she writes about her family&#8217;s personal experiences returning from their trip to Korea.&nbsp; Her piece reflects the difficulties in forming the bond between adoptive parent and child, and the need for parents to be patient and empathetic as they absorb the fear and [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"give_campaign_id":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1043,1097,1084,1706,56,114,1067,1035],"tags":[3808,65,130,762,993,97,146,91,54],"class_list":["post-7192","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-adoption","category-adoption-resource-center","category-adoption-services","category-bonding","category-international-adoption","category-korea","category-spence-chapin","category-spence-chapin-adoption","tag-adjustment","tag-adoption","tag-adoption-resource-center","tag-bonding","tag-family-stories","tag-international-adoption","tag-korea","tag-spence-chapin","tag-spence-chapin-adoption"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>The Adjustment Process: One Family&#039;s Story from Korea - Part I - Spence-Chapin<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/spencestaging.berrycreativellc.com\/es\/el-proceso-de-adaptacion-la-historia-de-una-familia-de-corea-parte-i\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"es_MX\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Adjustment Process: One Family&#039;s Story from Korea - Part I - Spence-Chapin\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"We are fortunate to have contributions from an adoptive parent in which she writes about her family&#8217;s personal experiences returning from their trip to Korea.&nbsp; 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